*me on the left as a bridesmaid
Oh, the things we did for our mothers back then. But it's like we didn't know any better or that's all we knew........or maybe we just didn't mind. Things have substantially changed. Children move away, and we find ourselves having to be flexible and go visit them. This hasn't been easy for me because I'm not a traveler, and what's more, the crazy freeways have me holding onto my seat the whole time. My friend gave me this candle, and what a pretty scent it has, and I love the words.
I laugh when I get together with my friend, Darla, and my sister. They come from the same world, where we did what we were told, and didn't have a whole lot of say in the matter on how things got done. Our moms just did everything themselves, but they did it out of love, and I look back now and appreciate all the work they did do. Even if it was their own funky way.
*my mother's bear
Despite all the little annoyances that come my way, I will remain in the Christmas spirit, and dwell in the goodness and wonder that the season brings.
~Sheri
37 comments:
Such beautiful brides!
Yes, times have changed, and not always to the better. You seem to have a good attitude about change and everything.
Sheri, Your moms must have been right....look how gorgeous you girls are. !! We hauled food and kids to my mom's house every holiday. Then it was at my house for many years. Now we meet at my daughters for every other holiday. I just want us together...I would not care if we ate hot-dogs for a meal.LOL Girl, I have been in the traffic out there...I could never go anywhere if I lived there...and it's getting worse in this farm state too. I will travel back roads and peaceful lanes rather then main highways. Too many rude and aggressive drivers...not mentioning those on their phones. Yikes. Be safe and enjoy your holiday week pretty girl. Blessings, xoxo,love, Susie
Sweet friend, I just love the picture at the beginning...oh, what two beautiful ladies!
Indeed, times have changed. I was so thankful for my mom when I planned my wedding. She was by my side the entire time, but she let me choose and decide what I wanted. She never tried to push her ideas on me nor did she tell me what to do {{smiles}} She was truly a blessing.
Have a most wonderful week, dear one. Love and hugs to you!
I think a lot of what you are talking about is respect...you respected your moms ideas and her. Plus, I think in our days things like planning our wedding would have been somewhat overwhelming and we enjoyed the fact that mom was willing to help. Difference today with a lot of young adults is they more open minded and more ready to voice what they want. I was very vocal as a young adult before I married but I tried out of respect for my mom to keep my mouth shut....keeping in mind that I ran off and got married, there was no planning to be done! haha. I just think people have changed so much and sometimes maybe not for the best. Sorry that you will be missing Nel and although it is not the same, at least we have facetime! I can remember as a child mom would make that once a month call to my granny in GA. We could not talk too long due to the cost. Cell phones changed a lot of that. Facetime made seeing that family member better. BUT, it don't help with that HUG! I love to travel just hate the getting ready for it and hate what it does to my body!
It's hard being away from our families at the holidays. I hosted a huge Thanksgiving dinner every year when my kids were growing up. Now they have their own big dinner...hundreds of miles away. I miss them but always make a big dinner regardless of who we have close by. My mother gave us turkey tv dinners when I was a teenager...don't ask! hahahaha!
Beautiful brides....love your post....Yeah Christmas is comming.....i hear the Bells ringing....hihihihi...love from me Ria x ❤️💚
I'm so glad you could get together with Darla and share those memories and fun. You were (and no doubt both are still) so beautiful!
Yes, holidays are different. Kids with more family than just us... distance. Ours are still close but things change. I hope you'll be able to see your team at least a bit on the holidays.
Oh Sheri, I hear your heart speaking. I understand this post more than you know. My Mama always expected us even when we had families of our own and we never questioned it! I sure wish I could still go to her house and my mother-in-law's house every Thanksgiving and Christmas, even though it made for a long day... I miss those times, but try to embrace the new like you. You will be making new traditions as your grands get older.
I love your wedding picture! What a beautiful bride you are! Also the darling bear of your Mother is a treasure. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your beautiful family. ♥
Beautiful photo!Beautiful post!
Dear Sheri, what a pretty bridesmaid you were. You bring a smile to my face talking about our Mums: same for me, we always took our small children 50 miles to my parent's place at Christmas, and also went in the other direction to have a meal with the in-laws. Always ended up with tired and miserable kids! Eventually it all moved to my house. But these days, who knows? Our adult kids make their own decisions. And yes, Mother had a Lot to do with my wedding too, chose most of it. Sweet Christmas elf is adorable. Love P.
Oh Sheri, I can totally identify with your post today. My Mom was in the same club as yours. ha haha Now, while I have three grands nearby (thank you, God), two live far away. Traveling to see them is difficult for me because I dislike flying these days. Such is life. Sheri, you were a real beauty (and still are!). Loved that photo. We are truly kindred spirits. Your optimism and joy of life are so refreshing. I'm so glad I "met" you. Susan
I share all these feelings with you. Years ago we didn't move that far from our parents - nowadays things are so different - it is just the way it is - but it does leave a little hole in the heart. I too listened to my mother and dad too! Happy Thanksgiving. sandie
I think I might be ThaT mom, Sheri--at least I used to be- All the holidays were always at my house and everyone came there. I cooked for days and got the house ready for whoever was staying over. In the last 3 years I have backed off and let someone else do Christmas at their house and Thanksgiving is at our old house that our son now owns.
I don't mind the drive at all to visit my daughter- driving really relaxes me--but I HATE Chicago traffic and always seem to hit it at rush hour. ugh.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family Sheri. Love to you- xo Diana
ps. You look absolutely beautiful in that picture of you as a bridesmaid. I bet you don't feel much older now than you did back then. xo xo xo
Yes, Mom's used to be the final word on etiquette! It was Mom's way or the highway.....hehe! Now we have to be much more flexible and make new traditions to spend time with our busy families. We have to be much more diplomatic, too. Weren't you the prettiest of bridesmaids, dear Sheri! It's so nice to catch up with old friends. Hope you have a lovely Thanksgiving! Hugs xo Karen
Such lovely photos, Sheri, all of them, but especially the one of a bride and her bridesmaid. Happy Thanksgiving! xx
This is an endearing post Sheri.
You know now I am quoting my mother more and more
to my son to prove to him that Mother's know best.
Sometimes it is so funny when I realize
that I am turning to be how my Mom was.
But my son though very respectful,
at a very young age knows what he wants
and how he wants things done, so I just have to guide him
in the right direction and support him.
But I guess we lived in a different time,
I do not have a daughter but I have a son,
I am super close to him but I can not expect
that we do the things my Mom and I did together.
A tear fell from my eye as I realized
that those times with my Mom are such wonderful memories now.
Thanks for sharing this post.
Ann
https://roomsofinspiration.blogspot.com/
Special friend, you just sparked in me a nostalgia for not only the old days when our moms were alive, but the old way I used to blog. Storytelling, personal stories about myself were very short-lived on my blog, because I preferred to stay out of the spotlight and create poetic muses. However, your open and honest story here is giving me the itch to write on a more personal note....
YOU ARE GORGEOUS and you remind me in your photo here, of me back in the 70s when I had my hair long. So many stories, aren't there!
No matter where you go or how you get there this season, may you know how loved you are.
Yes, I have kids and gks from CA to NJ. It is a different world from my childhood when I could walk to all of my relatives' houses. I hope they all send lots of cute photos and maybe they will visit in the spring.
Sheri, I love the beautiful image of you as a Bridesmaid. So pretty! What precious memories you must treasure. I know just what you mean about how the generations change. We must cherish now every chance and opportunity to be with family and those we love. I'll be celebrating at my parents home for Thanksgiving. I wouldn't dream of missing it, along with all my family. It's these traditions that hold us all together through the years!
Blessings to you & yours! Happy Thanksgiving! Net
What a sweet photo of you as a bridesmaid!
Usually I went to my parents' place for Christmas as well, but I also remember times when they came to visit me and then us - and it was always very special. It was nice for my mom since she didn't have to do anything and could just relax. She also did a lot for me in her entire life, but she was usually okay when I had my own ideas and followed those. I certainly wasn't always following her way - and my daughter certainly isn't following mine.
Sheri, you and your friend are beautiful! I would have been nodding, listening to you talk of your moms. I would have very much been your older sister, maybe even your mothers, but that was just true of those days and probably was true for our moms too. That's just what you did in those days. It did make me want for my kids to make their own choice guilt free, whether it was to visit us or their in-laws or to stay at home and enjoy a holiday in their own home and thank God for FaceTime now!
Have a blessed Thanksgiving, sweet friend,
Dewena
Times and family customs change. My mom did all the cooking and never did teach me how to cook anything, so I had to pick up that skill when I married. My hubby always was a great chef which was nice for me.
Hey Sheri, I redid my lantern. If you get time jump over and see if you like this one better. I knew if I took my time and did it right I could produce something better.
This post so spoke to me. Now, I will have a good cry. Not because it was sad, although it was, but that you shared so much love.
What a beautiful photo Sheri! You made a beautiful bridesmaid! This is such a sentimental post. Thank you for sharing your special memories. Wishing you a wonderful Thanksgiving and a Happy Holiday season my friend!
I'm not a traveler either, so I know how difficult this time of year can be. Your friend gave you a lovely candle. bet it smells delicious. happy thanksgiving to you and your family.
That is a beautiful picture of you and your friend. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving. I am thankful for your friendship and encouragement.
Dear, dear Sheri,
Among many of the dear bloggers that used to follow me, you are probably the only one left who comes on a regular basis! LOL!!!!!!!! I thank you for that. I don't expect many people to come visit my blog these days since blogging has been replaced by so many other mediums, and I can't really complain or should, because I left blogging for Instagram! But I really appreciate you visiting, leaving me comments, and sincerely being a friend. That ornament, I just bought that from a dear friend who sells the art of a local artist; we know each other through Instagram. That little ornament made a sensation among a few people and I believe the artist sold out! She had a limited amount of those darling vintage pieces that she embellished. And yes, when I was a child, like many other kids, I'd stare at my mother's Christmas village under the tree for hours and imagine, dream and hope that one day I'd live in a land of snow. Well, my wish came true.
Sweetest Sheri, HELLO! I see that you came over again, thank you! You know, I bought that little carriage from a dear friend who has an antique shoppe here. She is selling them and she got them from another dear local artist who got her hands on these vintage ornaments and embellished them with her beautiful touch. My sister in law out in California saw my Instagram post and immediately bought two. I believe they are all sold out! You too my friend, you too used to imagine and make things with paper and glitter? My mother gave me the greatest gift when I was a child: brown paper bags and a pencil and this advice: "GO DRAW." She incited in me a love for solitude with just me, myself and my imagination. May you continue to capture the beauty your beautiful self sees around you. Happy holidays!
Hello,
Sending hugs Sheri. It is hard to have family spread around the U.S.A .. I understand.
I like the candle.
I always enjoy when you share memories.
xx oo
Carla
Ohh, such beautiful brides <333
Christmas is coming - I feel it!
Lovely post on friendship and mothers.
It is hard living far from family. After my son moved out and was considering moving to Hawaii, I picked up and moved a few states away. And my sister lives in Italy. It is so sad and yet I am proud of her. But so far to travel.
Such a lovely photo of you and your friend.
Hola amiga querida,, tus fotos son muy dulces ,, espero que tengas un bendecido fin de semana
Your post made me smile. My mom didn't do anything for my wedding, which I guess was rather unusual back then. Then my daughter didn't want me doing anything to help with her wedding either.
Love the candle gift.
What lovely memories to share with a friend. I loved the picture of the two of you.
I always went to my mum's house for holidays as well. This Christmas my younger daughter is expecting her second child on Christmas Eve so she will be staying home with her husband and son...and maybe brand new daughter as well. Fortunately they live only an hour away so I will get to see them at some point.
The holidays are very difficult when we are spread all over the place. We have family in Florida, Mississippi, Georgia, Alabama and here in Texas. Since the hubster and I have moved out here, we always travel home to Alabama for visits and I will usually travel to Florida to see my boys and our only grand...Gianna. I am so thankful that this time in which I live is not the 1800's for earlier, for when families moved away they were seldom seen again because it was just too long and too difficult to travel. Hugs!!
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