Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Sheri's Thoughts

I usually post about positive things, but I think this is one topic that needs to be looked upon.  Lately, I have been noticing many people (not in the blog world but in everyday life) who can dish it out but can't take it.  They will say rude, snide, and disrespectful comments, and when replied with a clever response, their heads drop like "poor me" and they feel insulted.  While the truth is, they engaged in this inappropriate conversation first.  I know we all say things we don't mean when we're having a bad day, but when we lash out at someone, we must be prepared to accept the other person defend themselves, and not turn and twist it around to make it seem like we're the victims.  The way I see it, if someone can dish it out, they should be sturdy enough to take it.  Many times the people around us try to bring us down with their words, but words are powerful.  They should be used to lift the spirit, not to harm the body.

Is there someone in your world who can
dish it out but can't take it?
 
 
~Sheri


35 comments:

. said...

There are a lot of bloggers on here that do posts on touchy subject matter just so they can have drama. I feel the same way as you, if people are going to leave controversial posts then make sure you really want to go there or expect to get comments you may not like. If you can dish it then be prepared to take it to.

Optimistic Existentialist said...

Very true Sheri. When we say rude or disrespectful things, we cannot be surprised or angry when someone has a rude or disrespectful retort. I have the philosophy of always trying to be respectful even when I'm angry. Am I always successful? Of course not. But I try to always be aware and cognizant of the way I am coming across during those moments.

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Hello my dear friend! I so agree that one must prepare themselves to support their views especially if some else challenges them. I know...I was approached on easter in a very rude way and I responded as professionally as I could while this person continued to beat me down. When I came back a bit strong, she acted if I was the bully in the first place! So yes, if anyone dishes it out, they should be ready for the natural response, or just stay quiet. Words in my book should be uplifting. Hugs to you dear friend. Anita

syros2js said...

Well, I haven't come across any rude attitudes, but I totally agree with you....
Hugs, sweetheart!

louise said...

I rarely come across this sort of behaviour. I think people like this are often unhappy people, not an excuse for their conduct I know, but I try to understand and not let it upset me.

Sola Scriptura said...

I wish there was more kindness in the world.

Susie said...

Sheri, OMG...all my brothers and one of my sisters...Gaaa where do they get off. LOL. The brothers do it to torment us sisters and each other as big jokes. But one of my sister is ..is..is thinking she needs to blow everyone's candle out. Not very nice...but I bite my tongue, it's hard at times. I remember a saying...Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me....but mean words hurt our hearts. I try to be kind even to meanies. LOL. Hope someone is kinder next time around, xoxo,Susie

Red Rose Alley said...

Hahaha Susie, I try to be kind even to the meanies too. You are a special one, ya know that?

love,
~me

Rebeca Mello said...

I completely agree with you! I hate when someone says disrespectful things and then try to become the victim...
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pinks said...

They are just jealous because you have a lovely personality and a lovely blog that is popular because it is a pleasure to read! :) Ignore them whoever they are! Sending you a hug :)

~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

I guess that happens on blogs and in real life. I try to be sweet...because harsh remarks are very hurtful to me. I think I've gotten tougher as I've gotten older...but probably not! hahaha! Sending you LOTS of sweet hugs...and some warm hugs, too! It's HOT in Florida today! Your buddy, Diane

~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

I'm reading the comments....and want to say Susie is our sweetie, isn't she? HUGS!!!

Castles Crowns and Cottages said...

Good afternoon dear friend. How I adore you....

Thank you for coming back to my post. I am so happy to report that my MRI came back normal. I am still a bit unbalanced, but I am getting better by the week. It's been one month and going on three weeks since I've been dizzy!

And you too, still, with the itchy eyes? And the season has only begun....I want to come via email..back in a minute. LOVE! Anita

Merlesworld said...

You usually 'reap what you sow' or something like that.
Merle...............

TARYTERRE said...

It happens more frequently than you realize. And it's rude, indeed. I agree with you completely. Don't dish it out if you can't take it.

Antee Gurung said...

yup sherri!!! I totally agree with you!!! One should always try to be respectful even when u r not feeling that great. lashing out only brings negative energies for yourself and those around you.

have a lovely day
xoxo

Teresa said...

Probably lots but I tend to stay away from giving it. I'm an emotional coward and confrontations make me feel physically sick. But f I make the effort you may be certain I'm really looking forward for that relation to last and you'll be seeing the real me ahahaha

But what you say is so true. If in real life I don't have that much dish and take (I run from it as from the plague just faster :D) in virtual life I'm appalled at what people dish others. Even "loved" ones.

So glad you brought this up. I'm sure many your friends will enjoy venting about something that it's so hurtful but if you start talking about it in the place they should they will be branded bitter and nasty and troublesome. Always taking care of us, aren't you?

Love you for that (too),
Teresa

The Silver Bunny said...

Oh my goodness, so many people are like that ! And the "you can't take a joke !" just doesn't cut it; at all ! I am so sorry to learn about the loss of your dog. Animals are precious ! xxx

Vintage Jane said...

So sorry to hear you have had some 'meanies'. They are just jealous attention seekers for sure. M x

Patty Patterson said...

Yes! Of course there is! And may God grant me the grace to love them in spite of themselves. Boy it is HARD!

Stephanie said...

I agree, sweet Sheri, and it's sad that attitudes and personalities can be that way.

Thinking of you and wishing you a beautiful day! Love and hugs!

Leslie said...

Hi Sheri,

Yes, what comes around goes around. I think we get treated the way we treat others. Although most people are kind for the most part there are some that are not. They may be unhappy for whatever reason and this vibe comes through their personality like a lightening bolt. Perhaps they struggling with something and are unhappy ~ no excuse to bully or be mean though and when that happens I believe they need to be put in their place.

The pup is darling! xxleslie

Susie Swanson said...

Oh yes, I know the feeling so well. There's quite a few around here. Here's wishing you a Happy Mother's Day sweet friend. Hugs and Love, xo

Imogen said...

It is important to post about many aspects of life, if something is on your mind it is good to hear about it even if it isn’t just the positive aspects of life. I just wish people could be nicer in general, words hurt. Missed your blog recently, glad I’m back to reading it again.

Marcia @ A Table Named Love said...

I hear ya. I RARELY dish it out, AND I can BARELY take it. Sensitive soul here, and I seem to be growing more sensitive the "younger" I grow. ;)
I recently dished it out just a tad in one of my posts where I shared my opinion on perfectionism, but since then reverted that post to a draft because as much as I tried to present it in grace, it came across harsh, too harsh for me.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, and for your transparency, Sheri.
Have a lovely weekend.
xoxo's

Angelsdoor * Penny said...

It is a shame, you know, that we all can't just follow the golden rule.. So simple, right Sheri?
Wishing you a beautiful day..
blessings dear friend
Penny

LoveT. said...

Great Words!

Happy Weekend ,kisses :)

It's me said...

Wowwww true words post...please stay yourself and let other do what they want.....keep close to yourself darling !!!..love that picture of the two dogs !!...love Ria....x !

Heather Lindstrom said...

Oh Sheri-Sorry to hear you are having to deal with this. I don't get it either....it makes no sense. In my career, as a School Psychologist, I have to deal with 'craziness' often so I know how to steal myself for it and be a professional. It's definitely more difficult in our personal lives. Just remember-if someone is being a rude dude it's really all about them, not you.
Wishing you a fantastic mother's day with those darling girls Sheri!
xx, Heather

Tassell, Tea pot, and life down under said...

That is so sad isn't it? Life is too short for such attitude. I think it is better to just ignore them. You are a lovely person Sheri and I immensely enjoy visiting your blog. And I do love it when you drop by too. Wishing you a happy mother's day.

Hugs,
aida

Palomasea said...

Oh, Sheri... I am sorry to hear of this...you are a beautiful soul, and full of grace. I learned the hard way that retorts just breed more anger, and at this point just feel sorry for those who lash out...even in a passive/aggressive way.

Your comments re: my MIL made me smile. We do not have what one would call a "positive" relationship, and you are very blessed to have that with yours.
Anyway, I send you love... :)
And I thank you so very much for visiting me and your kind words regarding my journal entry. I was so nervous because, as far as I know, the other participants are "true artists", and I just like to play...it is not a natural gift for me. But it is what it is...I'm thankful for the chance to participate...
Blessings to you and your sweet girls...
Have a GLORIOUS Mother's Day!
xoxoxo,
- Irina

Palomasea said...

And those pups are beyond adorable... :)
xo

Draffin Bears said...

Hi Sheri,

Great post and as my Mother taught us if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. Have always remembered this good advice.
Love the sweet dogs.
Hope you had a happy Mothers day and wishing you a great week.
hugs
Carolyn

Keri_lou said...

As your reader Carolyn said above if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all.. It's usually to do with their own insecurities I guess. My personality will usually take a few digs and then I let rip and scare the life out of that person lol! So yes there are a few characters like that I know!!

Mona said...

Oh Sheri,
My thoughts exactly. I have been saying this a lot over the past few months.. If you can't take it, then don't give it!!! My sister is the main one in my life that does this! needless to say we are very estranged.there is just so much I am willing to put up with..so glad you wrote this..makes me know I am not alone. I had a snarky comment on my blog lately..I quickly deleted it..
Love, Mona